subs for Dommes
Before You Start
If you haven’t already, please take a look at our home page where you can learn more about us and our values. This is not a group you should blindly enter, set yourself up for success by learning more about us.
About Us
The Dommes
Senior Domme | Founder | Owner
👑 Miss Chris
Located in Canada, has a huge passion for BDSM, and started this group as a way for like-minded people to meet participate in a tight knit community. Miss Chris leads the entire group through tasks as well as organizing, running and mentoring subs. As well, she creates the tasks, discussion topics, and exciting games that make this group so great.
Domme
⚜️ Miss
Brat Tamer Extraordinaire. Need a firm hand to crack the whip? Look no further!
Apprentice Domme
🧜♀️ Mistress
She loves to support and educate those who put in the time and effort to earn her it. That said, she is also quick to discard those who fail to take her seriously, and has a slightly sadistic sense of humor.
Apprentice Domme
💖 Mistress
I love building genuine relationships that help subs grow. I am sensual and caring, but have a firm hand when necessary. Oh, and I do not tolerate anything less than your best.
The Rules
Is there financial commitment?
No – the Dungeon is free, this is a Findom free group. We do this for the love and passion for lifestyle BDSM and are morally opposed to financial domination.
Why is showing my face required to join?
Seeing your face is required to verify your age, and that you are real – it is not required during tasks
BDSM/Toys are illegal in my country, can I join?
No – it is not safe for you and could put the Dungeon at risk
Illegal Countrys
AFRICA
Burundi, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Equatorial Guinea, Libya, Morocco, Nigeria, South Africa, South Sudan, Sudan, Tanzania, The Gambia, Tunisia, Zambia, Zimbabwe
EUROPE
Belarus, Greece, Moldova, Russia, Turkey
NORTH AMERICA
Cuba
ASIA
Afghanistan, Bhutan, Bahrain, Brunei, Cambodia, China, Georgia, India, Iraq, Iran, Israel, Indonesia, Japan, Jordan, Kazakhstan, Kuwait, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Lebanon, Malaysia, Maldives, Mongolia, Myanmar, Nepal, North Korea, Oman, Palestine Gaza, Pakistan, Philippines, Qatar, Sri Lanka, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, South Korea, Syria, Taiwan, Tajikistan, Thailand, Timor-leste, Turkmenistan, United Arab Emirates, Uzbekistan, Vietnam, Yemen
Toys are required.
Both a dildo and plug are required.
you will not be able to go into the private Dungeon without owning certain toys.
Anal Play For Beginners
This guide is designed to give you the tools required in order to begin having enjoyable anal play using sex toys.
There are suggestions for how to select toys, how to properly and safely maintain them, and finally a guide for how to begin using and enjoying them.
Before you begin
Selecting your toy:
Starting with a Butt Plug
Make sure any anal toy you want to use has a wide base that’s wider than the width of the toy itself and provides a good “stopping point.” The base of the plug is supposed to stay outside of the body for easy removal. So, if it looks like the toy may slip entirely inside the body, you may want to consider a different type of butt plug.
The biggest rule of thumb is to go smaller in size rather than larger. You can always purchase a larger plug after enjoying your time with a smaller plug. However, you might find it hard to enjoy your sessions with a plug that’s too large for you.
Choosing a DildoOne of the most common mistakes is assuming that bigger is always better. That is why it is always a good idea to have a sense of what is comfortable for you and/or your partner rather than assuming that any size will be fine. If you are unsure, keep in mind that it is always possible to make a dildo feel bigger by adding a penis sleeve to it, however, a larger dildo cannot be made to feel smaller.
If you desire a dildo that has testicles or a flared base, remember to notice what the insertable length of the dildo is rather than the overall length. A realistic dildo looks similar to a real penis, however, it has nothing to do with size or color for that matter. Some people make the mistake of thinking that when a dildo is marketed as realistic that it is describing the size of an average man’s penis. The reality is that typically the opposite is true as many realistic shaped dildos are quite large and are much larger than most men.
Choosing the right sizeBefore purchasing a toy, you may want to try anal pleasure with fingers and purchase a toy that’s similar in size to what you enjoy with your hand. This is a good idea especially if you’re hoping to use your butt plugs to work up to penetration with a dildo. Many sets include plugs of similar designs that slowly increase in diameter.
As for length, we will g-spot in a woman and the prostate in a man are located only 2.5 – 3 inches inside (may vary slightly in some people). Therefore, it should be noted that long dildos are not always what people desire. In fact, that is why shorter, curved dildos are so popular as they help to reach both the g-spot and prostate more effectively and the curve stimulates with pleasurable pressure.
Make sure you have the right lube
Choosing the right lube
Much like everything else in life, most people have preferences towards a specific type of lubricant. Some people really love water-based lube for its ability to simply clean up or be compatible with most materials. Others swear by silicone-based lubricant because it lasts for such a long time. It is important that you choose the right lube for your butt plug and dildo.
Water-based is compatible with all materials. Silicone-based lube can be used with most toy materials, but it may not play well with some silicone toys. Silicone on silicone for example will slowly cause the toy’s outer material to degrade and therefore is unsafe to use.
You are ready to begin anal training
Step 1. Start with Cleaning
The first thing you need to do is take care of hygiene. To start, simply use the bathroom naturally and clean out your pipes. Afterward, take a shower and clean the entrance and about an inch inside with a finger.
To make this easier, you can push outwards slowly (like you are going to the bathroom) and wash up the skin inside. Here, I don’t recommend using much soap because it can cause irritation, but make sure you clean up well first. In most cases this will do the trick. If you are still worried about hygiene you can always use an enema to really flush things out (full guide here).
Step 2. Get lubed up!
When learning how to use a butt plug, or delving into anything anal, using a good anal lube is a must! This is because your anal tissue is very thin, extra sensitive, and although this means it can make anal feel amazing. It also means that you can hurt yourself if you aren’t extra careful starting out.
Your body does not produce a natural anal lubricant so you must use a lube if you are planning to use an anal plug or dildo. Re-applying after longer periods of time is very important, especially when starting out. Your body creates heat and lube will evaporate over time so be aware.
Some lubes include relaxing or numbing agents, these can be helpful with more experience, but should not be used during an introduction to anything new. If you are not able to feel pain you may not realize when you need to stop or slow down. For ongoing practice different types of lubes can be beneficial and fun to try.
Step 3. Choose a comfortable position
Find a position that gives you good leverage. The arm that’s operating the toy will need to stretch further than you usually do when you masturbate. Sitting up in bed with some pillows propped behind you is usually doable. Lying on your side with knees bent, squatting or kneeling on all fours can be helpful as well, try a few positions and find what works best for you.
You want to be relaxed before starting for the first time, getting turned on is a good way. One of the challenges of using anal toys is getting your muscles relaxed enough for penetration, so do whatever tickles your fancy: put some fingers up there, masturbate, watch porn, fantasize, you get the idea.
Step 4. Insertion
Put a generous amount of lube on your fingers, and apply the lube to your anus. You can push your fingers in a few inches to get some lube inside and prepare yourself for the toy. The toy should be lubed enough that it practically slips out of your hand.
Holding your toy in your dominant hand, press the tip of the toy against your anus, hold it there for a few moments while your body adjusts to the pressure.
When you feel ready, gently push the toy in about an inch, then hold it there. If this feels painful or like there’s too much resistance, slowly pull the toy out. Angling the toy at a 45 degree angle is best to help the head of the toy breach, but also is the most enjoyable angle to receive pleasure. Point the tip of the toy toward the genitals (male or female).
If all systems are go, slowly slide the toy further in, an inch at a time, taking breaks to hold it in place. If it feels like your butt is pushing your toy out, you can sit up a bit so the base comes in contact with your bed and keeps the toy inside. You can keep the toy stationary, and enjoy the sensation of fullness it creates. Or try moving it in and out or around in circles.
Care and Maintenance
Cleaning and safety:
Hygiene can mean the difference between contracting an infection, or staying healthy. But cleaning your vibrator, dildo or any of your adult toys, is not as simple as washing them in the sink with some detergent and hot water. There’s a lot to consider when tackling sex toy hygiene: the material of your toy, whether it’s got a motor, or twists, turns and crevices, and so forth.
Dishwasher
Truly a classic, and a pretty accessible form of sanitization for your toys, dumping dildos in the dishwasher can be a hassle free way of getting them squeaky clean. Obviously, a lot of electronic toys, namely vibes and wands might not pull through an ordeal in a dishwasher, so it’s important to check the fine print on your toys before throwing them in with your dishes.
Hand Washing With Soap
A no-brainer, hand washing your toys with warm water, and a gentle antibacterial soap (we recommend using either a hypoallergenic soap, or a sex-toy cleaner; guaranteed to not irritate your bits) is an accessible and easy way to clean your sex toys. Obviously, when dealing with non-waterproof vibrators, like the Magic Wand or Womanizer, you will want to forgo holding them under running water, or submerging them completely. Opt for using a damp cloth and a bit of soap instead.
30 Day Anal Training Program
Below is a downloadable 30 day program with daily tasks to get you from an anal beginner to a regular butt hole sinner. By the end of the 30 days period, you should be ready to ride a dildo for 10 minutes. Each day is intended to be a 15 minute session. Remember, the goal is to enjoy the sensations gradually, if you need to repeat a day, then repeat a day before moving to the next.
The program is designed for use with a trainer set of butt plugs (small, medium, large) and a small dildo. If you have only one size plug, where the program suggests changing sizes, simply remove your plug, re-apply lube and continue as instructed.
30-Day-Anal-Training-Program-Tracking-Sheet Download
Dildo
Vibrator
Butt Plug
Prostate Massager
The StepsOne
Welcome Guide
Read everything on the page and complete the steps at the end to confirm consent and understanding.
Two
Limit List
Fill out the Limit list chart to share your interests and limitations. This will also ensure that you are able to participate safely within the dungeon.
Three
The Application
Fill out a thorough application that will tell us more about you, you can think of it like submitting a resume for a job.
Four
Consideration
Upon review of your application you will invited to a private kik room with the Dommes and admins. You will be given a set of tasks that show you are capable of keeping up with those given in the dungeon, and asked questions to get to know you and understand your journey better.
Sub Behavior
Dommes looking to join
This is a free Femdomme group. We are not interested in wasting time talking to any Findommes.
If you are a friendly Domme that works well with other Dommes, is interested in mentoring subs, writing creative tasks, having fun kinky chats and has time to spare daily we would love to hear from you. We are also happy to consider taking on apprentice Dommes with the right attitude and skill set.
Simply enter our Kik screening room, inform us of Your role and preferred title, and we will help connect You with one of the Dommes here for a separate screening process.
If you were not sent here directly from Kik, you may enter through this link.
Kik Screening Room
If you haven’t already, please take a look at our home page where you can learn more about us and our values. This is not a group you should blindly enter, set yourself up for success by learning more about us.
About Us
The Dommes
Senior Domme | Founder | Owner
👑 Miss Chris
Located in Canada, has a huge passion for BDSM, and started this group as a way for like-minded people to meet participate in a tight knit community. Miss Chris leads the entire group through tasks as well as organizing, running and mentoring subs. As well, she creates the tasks, discussion topics, and exciting games that make this group so great.
Domme
⚜️ Miss
Brat Tamer Extraordinaire. Need a firm hand to crack the whip? Look no further!
Apprentice Domme
🧜♀️ Mistress
She loves to support and educate those who put in the time and effort to earn her it. That said, she is also quick to discard those who fail to take her seriously, and has a slightly sadistic sense of humor.
Apprentice Domme
💖 Mistress
I love building genuine relationships that help subs grow. I am sensual and caring, but have a firm hand when necessary. Oh, and I do not tolerate anything less than your best.
The Rules
- you must be a submissive or slave 21-50 years old (age is at our discretion)
- you must be willing to use all holes
- What a Domme says goes. No arguments.
- All Dommes must be addressed correctly by their preferred name at all times. Correct capitalization is required.
- Subs must own a butt plug and dildo. Real sex toys only, no household items.
- you must be committed, open to learning and trying new things.
- you must be respectful to ALL group members at all times.
- No kink shaming is permitted.
- Keep it in the group. you are NOT to PM anyone without a Dommes permission.
- you must not show, share, save, or repost any members videos pictures, names or Kik ID ever. Instant ban!
- you must be available 1-2 hours per day minimum to be a committed group member.
- you must contribute to general group chat daily.
- you must take part in ALL compulsory topics and tasks.
- Failure to do so will result in removal from the group for non-participation.
- If you are unable to complete a task prior to the deadline you must discuss this with a Domme.
- The trial period ends if/when
- A Domme wants to Mentor you OR
- You have impressed us enough to be made into a permanent Dungeon sub.
- Mentored subs must follow and complete any additional requests, tasks, rules, or requirements given to you by your Mentor.
- Permanent Dungeon subs must abide by the protocols set and must follow any additional requests, tasks, rules, or requirements given by any Domme.
- Chastity is compulsory. No playing with yourself unless it’s required for a task, a reward or you have permission from your Mentor/Mistress.
- If you cum without permission you will be placed in chastity for a minimum of 30 days.
- A chastity cage/belt may be required.
- you must be open and honest with all members of Miss Chris' Dungeon. Lies will not be tolerated.
- All subs must know their soft and hard limits and be ready to post them on request.
- Safewords: the Dungeon respects and encourages the use of safe words.
- All subs must abide by these rules at all times while they are a member of The Dungeon.
Is there financial commitment?
No – the Dungeon is free, this is a Findom free group. We do this for the love and passion for lifestyle BDSM and are morally opposed to financial domination.
Why is showing my face required to join?
Seeing your face is required to verify your age, and that you are real – it is not required during tasks
BDSM/Toys are illegal in my country, can I join?
No – it is not safe for you and could put the Dungeon at risk
Illegal Countrys
AFRICA
Burundi, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Equatorial Guinea, Libya, Morocco, Nigeria, South Africa, South Sudan, Sudan, Tanzania, The Gambia, Tunisia, Zambia, Zimbabwe
EUROPE
Belarus, Greece, Moldova, Russia, Turkey
NORTH AMERICA
Cuba
ASIA
Afghanistan, Bhutan, Bahrain, Brunei, Cambodia, China, Georgia, India, Iraq, Iran, Israel, Indonesia, Japan, Jordan, Kazakhstan, Kuwait, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Lebanon, Malaysia, Maldives, Mongolia, Myanmar, Nepal, North Korea, Oman, Palestine Gaza, Pakistan, Philippines, Qatar, Sri Lanka, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, South Korea, Syria, Taiwan, Tajikistan, Thailand, Timor-leste, Turkmenistan, United Arab Emirates, Uzbekistan, Vietnam, Yemen
Toys are required.
Both a dildo and plug are required.
you will not be able to go into the private Dungeon without owning certain toys.
Anal Play For Beginners
This guide is designed to give you the tools required in order to begin having enjoyable anal play using sex toys.
There are suggestions for how to select toys, how to properly and safely maintain them, and finally a guide for how to begin using and enjoying them.
Before you begin
Selecting your toy:
Starting with a Butt Plug
Make sure any anal toy you want to use has a wide base that’s wider than the width of the toy itself and provides a good “stopping point.” The base of the plug is supposed to stay outside of the body for easy removal. So, if it looks like the toy may slip entirely inside the body, you may want to consider a different type of butt plug.
The biggest rule of thumb is to go smaller in size rather than larger. You can always purchase a larger plug after enjoying your time with a smaller plug. However, you might find it hard to enjoy your sessions with a plug that’s too large for you.
Choosing a DildoOne of the most common mistakes is assuming that bigger is always better. That is why it is always a good idea to have a sense of what is comfortable for you and/or your partner rather than assuming that any size will be fine. If you are unsure, keep in mind that it is always possible to make a dildo feel bigger by adding a penis sleeve to it, however, a larger dildo cannot be made to feel smaller.If you desire a dildo that has testicles or a flared base, remember to notice what the insertable length of the dildo is rather than the overall length. A realistic dildo looks similar to a real penis, however, it has nothing to do with size or color for that matter. Some people make the mistake of thinking that when a dildo is marketed as realistic that it is describing the size of an average man’s penis. The reality is that typically the opposite is true as many realistic shaped dildos are quite large and are much larger than most men.
Choosing the right sizeBefore purchasing a toy, you may want to try anal pleasure with fingers and purchase a toy that’s similar in size to what you enjoy with your hand. This is a good idea especially if you’re hoping to use your butt plugs to work up to penetration with a dildo. Many sets include plugs of similar designs that slowly increase in diameter.As for length, we will g-spot in a woman and the prostate in a man are located only 2.5 – 3 inches inside (may vary slightly in some people). Therefore, it should be noted that long dildos are not always what people desire. In fact, that is why shorter, curved dildos are so popular as they help to reach both the g-spot and prostate more effectively and the curve stimulates with pleasurable pressure.
Make sure you have the right lube
Choosing the right lube
Much like everything else in life, most people have preferences towards a specific type of lubricant. Some people really love water-based lube for its ability to simply clean up or be compatible with most materials. Others swear by silicone-based lubricant because it lasts for such a long time. It is important that you choose the right lube for your butt plug and dildo.
Water-based is compatible with all materials. Silicone-based lube can be used with most toy materials, but it may not play well with some silicone toys. Silicone on silicone for example will slowly cause the toy’s outer material to degrade and therefore is unsafe to use.
You are ready to begin anal training
Step 1. Start with Cleaning
The first thing you need to do is take care of hygiene. To start, simply use the bathroom naturally and clean out your pipes. Afterward, take a shower and clean the entrance and about an inch inside with a finger.
To make this easier, you can push outwards slowly (like you are going to the bathroom) and wash up the skin inside. Here, I don’t recommend using much soap because it can cause irritation, but make sure you clean up well first. In most cases this will do the trick. If you are still worried about hygiene you can always use an enema to really flush things out (full guide here).
Step 2. Get lubed up!
When learning how to use a butt plug, or delving into anything anal, using a good anal lube is a must! This is because your anal tissue is very thin, extra sensitive, and although this means it can make anal feel amazing. It also means that you can hurt yourself if you aren’t extra careful starting out.
Your body does not produce a natural anal lubricant so you must use a lube if you are planning to use an anal plug or dildo. Re-applying after longer periods of time is very important, especially when starting out. Your body creates heat and lube will evaporate over time so be aware.
Some lubes include relaxing or numbing agents, these can be helpful with more experience, but should not be used during an introduction to anything new. If you are not able to feel pain you may not realize when you need to stop or slow down. For ongoing practice different types of lubes can be beneficial and fun to try.
Step 3. Choose a comfortable position
Find a position that gives you good leverage. The arm that’s operating the toy will need to stretch further than you usually do when you masturbate. Sitting up in bed with some pillows propped behind you is usually doable. Lying on your side with knees bent, squatting or kneeling on all fours can be helpful as well, try a few positions and find what works best for you.
You want to be relaxed before starting for the first time, getting turned on is a good way. One of the challenges of using anal toys is getting your muscles relaxed enough for penetration, so do whatever tickles your fancy: put some fingers up there, masturbate, watch porn, fantasize, you get the idea.
Step 4. Insertion
Put a generous amount of lube on your fingers, and apply the lube to your anus. You can push your fingers in a few inches to get some lube inside and prepare yourself for the toy. The toy should be lubed enough that it practically slips out of your hand.
Holding your toy in your dominant hand, press the tip of the toy against your anus, hold it there for a few moments while your body adjusts to the pressure.
When you feel ready, gently push the toy in about an inch, then hold it there. If this feels painful or like there’s too much resistance, slowly pull the toy out. Angling the toy at a 45 degree angle is best to help the head of the toy breach, but also is the most enjoyable angle to receive pleasure. Point the tip of the toy toward the genitals (male or female).
If all systems are go, slowly slide the toy further in, an inch at a time, taking breaks to hold it in place. If it feels like your butt is pushing your toy out, you can sit up a bit so the base comes in contact with your bed and keeps the toy inside. You can keep the toy stationary, and enjoy the sensation of fullness it creates. Or try moving it in and out or around in circles.
Care and Maintenance
Cleaning and safety:
Hygiene can mean the difference between contracting an infection, or staying healthy. But cleaning your vibrator, dildo or any of your adult toys, is not as simple as washing them in the sink with some detergent and hot water. There’s a lot to consider when tackling sex toy hygiene: the material of your toy, whether it’s got a motor, or twists, turns and crevices, and so forth.
Dishwasher
Truly a classic, and a pretty accessible form of sanitization for your toys, dumping dildos in the dishwasher can be a hassle free way of getting them squeaky clean. Obviously, a lot of electronic toys, namely vibes and wands might not pull through an ordeal in a dishwasher, so it’s important to check the fine print on your toys before throwing them in with your dishes.
Hand Washing With Soap
A no-brainer, hand washing your toys with warm water, and a gentle antibacterial soap (we recommend using either a hypoallergenic soap, or a sex-toy cleaner; guaranteed to not irritate your bits) is an accessible and easy way to clean your sex toys. Obviously, when dealing with non-waterproof vibrators, like the Magic Wand or Womanizer, you will want to forgo holding them under running water, or submerging them completely. Opt for using a damp cloth and a bit of soap instead.
30 Day Anal Training Program
Below is a downloadable 30 day program with daily tasks to get you from an anal beginner to a regular butt hole sinner. By the end of the 30 days period, you should be ready to ride a dildo for 10 minutes. Each day is intended to be a 15 minute session. Remember, the goal is to enjoy the sensations gradually, if you need to repeat a day, then repeat a day before moving to the next.
The program is designed for use with a trainer set of butt plugs (small, medium, large) and a small dildo. If you have only one size plug, where the program suggests changing sizes, simply remove your plug, re-apply lube and continue as instructed.
30-Day-Anal-Training-Program-Tracking-Sheet Download
DildoVibratorButt PlugProstate MassagerThe StepsOne
Welcome Guide
Read everything on the page and complete the steps at the end to confirm consent and understanding.
Two
Limit List
Fill out the Limit list chart to share your interests and limitations. This will also ensure that you are able to participate safely within the dungeon.
Three
The Application
Fill out a thorough application that will tell us more about you, you can think of it like submitting a resume for a job.
Four
Consideration
Upon review of your application you will invited to a private kik room with the Dommes and admins. You will be given a set of tasks that show you are capable of keeping up with those given in the dungeon, and asked questions to get to know you and understand your journey better.
Sub Behavior
- No foul Language.
- OK, Sure, Fine, Alright, any other one word answers will come off lazy and show disinterest. Only speak in complete sentences, as stated above communication is the foundation of BDSM.
- Correct capitalization is required, all names and titles should have proper capitalization and should not be shortened.
- Domme, sub
- Nobody should be referred to as miss, Mistress, goddess, ext… only full names and titles.
- If you are unsure of how to refer to someone it is polite to ask.
- Don’t be thirsty! It’s okay to ask questions but asking for tasks, unnecessary PMs and talking about how horny you are will extend your wait or get you removed.
- Follow the Dungeon rules starting Now!
Dommes looking to join
This is a free Femdomme group. We are not interested in wasting time talking to any Findommes.
If you are a friendly Domme that works well with other Dommes, is interested in mentoring subs, writing creative tasks, having fun kinky chats and has time to spare daily we would love to hear from you. We are also happy to consider taking on apprentice Dommes with the right attitude and skill set.
Simply enter our Kik screening room, inform us of Your role and preferred title, and we will help connect You with one of the Dommes here for a separate screening process.
If you were not sent here directly from Kik, you may enter through this link.
Kik Screening Room
